Remembering Tom Mosmiller — a Most Amazing Man!

I’m greatly saddened, having heard this afternoon of the death of my friend and ally Tom Mosmiller.

My last visit with Tom, on his balcony, Fall, 2024

I can’t really say that I knew Tom well! He showed me some pictures of me being on a panel at the 1983 — Ann Arbor — Men and Masculinity Conference of NOMAS, The National Organization of Men Against Sexism — so obviously we first met working together there.

Probably I saw Tom at all the NOMAS Conferences I attended. I had last seen Tom in 1993 (San Francisco). I tracked him down in 2022, after returning to the East Bay Area. He invited me to lunch at his Oakland condo four or five times thereafter.

Each time we got together, I felt like we were both getting a little closer through our memories of past Men’s Movement work. I was also learning much more of Tom’s amazing life journey. Sadly, I was also learning of his lung condition which we both knew he bravely accepted.

Outwards — a Queer History — May 11, 2017 interview:

https://theoutwordsarchive.org/interview/mosmiller-tom/ — provides a great synopsis of times achievements. I’ll note some of them below:

1. Born — September 19, 1947 — Baltimore — grew up in what I would call a “very Catholic” world,