I think that those you write of are part of a larger group of people, which include other people who in some ways superficially are “like many of us” Arlie Russell Hochschild’s insightful book: “Anger and Mourning on the American Right” aptly describes them. Many of them are upper-middle class. Sexism, homophobia and xenophobia are significant as well as a strong belief in a religion that says as you describe things “toughen up”. The upper one percent are admired and poor people, along with immigrants, gays/lesbians/trans folks, “liberals” and Big Government are the culprits. A reasonable number of these people profit in some ways economically from Trumpism. They aren’t necessarily acting against their class interests. They want a simpler, mythical world of the past where our pushing for equality is quashed. Hochschild’s questioning of the women she got to know over about 6 years of interviewing them exposed a world where they tended to believe that somewhere between 30 and 50% of U.S. workers are Federal Employees — 6% is the actual total. The area where they were really hurt by their beliefs was often in the destruction of their wetlands and outdoors (sporting) life by big corporations evading government regulations, doing in one sense what they asked for and their naive beliefs that appeasing the corporations was helping themselves and others. My perspective changed, having read this book, to seeing the necessity of not wasting time trying to reach many of these people. It seems more important particularly related to the 2020 election to reach the often suburban White Women who likely won’t vote for Trump, but might well not vote at all if they do not see the alternative being worth supporting. They may, for example, be offended by the blatant sexism of Trump, but not see how critical it is to over time move the Supreme Court into a more balanced position (e.g. Ruth Bader Ginzberg’s future replacement is critically important).