HUGS — Loving or Lethal?

Hugs — Loving or Lethal?

Hugs can be a most caring connection between two or more people. They can also cause harm — detonating toxic energy — at Another. Hugs also serve as a metaphor for much that is both great, as well as horrible, around us.

A toxic individual, generally a man, can be a marauding mosquito. They may seek out others. Often (wo)men are made into “bait”. Denying him “his hug” may be thrust at the Other, as if s/he is then negating his humanity.

I try to be cautious around women I don’t know. I don’t want to be pushing myself upon them. I don’t want either of us to feel me seeking their breasts through a hug.

A few days ago I had a “hug conversation” with a close friend. When we left the restaurant he amazed me! His hug was strong, but not “macho” at all.

Around men I’m generally hug avoidant. Some mean seem afraid that I’ll make a pass at them, if we hug. That’s sad!

Far more often it’s (for me), a significantly broken record. We have an invisible — narrow “mattress” between us. It ensures that neither our chests nor genital areas will inadvertently make actual contact.

Homophobia — is attacking — so simply!

Then the message is confirmed. I feel my back pounded upon mercilessly. It reminds me of past handshakes, where my inferiority is confirmed with the massive squeezing of my poor hand.

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