Feeling the Pain

Others — Sharing

Me — Caring


Decades of Depression




The Pain Now

is Within Others I Care Very Much About

Not knowing Closely


Feeling Snippets of What Hurts Them

Very Much!


Homelessness -

and Virtual Homelessness!

Losing One’s License — for One’s Profession!

Forced — to change Careers -

Then — Laid Off


Being Different

for Us

Isn’t a Choice!



and Much More

are Most Real


We are Aspies — Autistic Adults

Our World(s)


with You,


We Remain




Not Better

Not Inferior

Resma Menakem’s: My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies — is simply a classic — a Must Read!

One can, perhaps, disagree with his splitting of American people in one way — having a third category besides “white” and “Black” with “Blue” (police, security and similar) — but he makes a forceful case for how we all are dealing or not dealing with our traumas — a most important perspective.

If you have a white body, there will be times when it will reflexively constrict in order to protect you from some of…

(Abortion Rights — Men) — Am I The Only One? I hope not! — Wed, September 1, 2021, 5:47 AM·3 min read

Washington — A controversial Texas law banning abortions after six weeks of pregnancy went into effect at midnight after the U.S. Supreme Court didn’t issue a ruling on it. A group of pro-abortion rights groups and providers had asked the high court on Monday to block it.

The law is one of the nation’s most restrictive, prohibiting nearly all abortions in the state, the abortion rights groups warned.

In addition to outlawing abortion as early as six weeks…

I’m Crying

Lost in My Sadness

Tears wetting me Deeply

7:15–7:20 — this morning

I was heading out on the

Pratt Street Pier

The waves were Strong

Voices — range Out

I hoped against hope!

People were seeking Help

I felt helpless

I called the Coast Guard

7:12 — another had called 911

I didn’t hear his voice

He had gone down

just before my arrival

(courtesy of a relative — who loved him deeply)

He was set to travel to Columbia University next week. He was going to major in Economics and minor in political science. He has hopes of attending law school afterwards. He attended high school…

White Men

are Spirits

Some seem static — perhaps stuck

Some flowing

with the windswept smoke


The Spirit of One White Man

may intersect

with Others

Whether attacking


Intersecting in Part

Overlapping Spirit(s) then


Tis easy

to sashay in place

a Spirit

at Peace

No Need

for Stirring

of the Brew

- or

To Be in Battle

with(in) Oneself

Churning, Spiraling


out of Control


Tis Much Harder

to Struggle

with the Demons

The Trauma of One’s Being

- Tis Much Harder

to Confront

one’s Soul

Struggling Within

Pushing Outward

(trying to) Reach




I’m a white, fairly liberal man. I am okay — with being who I am. I should do more for various reasons.

Before I can realistically do more, I need to deal with my own basic “survival”. I have various medical issues that I need to take care of. I am working on them — including my own mental health issues.

Doing more can be a lot of things — obviously! I have a life partner. Doing more outside of my relationship, while neglecting my relationship would be wrong. Doing more within my relationship is important to me. I’ve not…

Joe Biden — Common Sense

1. The Pandemic is Moving Rapidly Forward

2. The Current “Opening Up” has been a Disaster

3. The Status Quo is Dangerous and Not Sustainable

You Have Two Clear Choices:

1. Pretend the Above isn’t True or

2. Take Action — Now

I Strong Suggest the Latter Approach!

You have several basic ways of Doing This Including:

1. Issuing Mandates

2. Asking Congress to Take Action

3. Have Others — Meet asap and Make Recommendations that you then act upon

I suggest Alternative 3.

How You Can Do This is Up to You.


My sense is that as white people — frequently — we:

1. Directly related to how much privilege we have, we tend to remain silent as long as we are in our comfort zone within our privilege,

Example: We used to only be mildly bothered by systemic racist and its persistence — either not seeing it, or seeing it as isolated incidents, or not that major things etc. and/or we had other priorities that dwarfed it.

2. When we feel discomfort taking us out of our comfort zone(s), we commonly begin delving into the new dissonance that we feel


We are white men

Many, if not Most of us

Have been significantly affected by:

Hurt, Pain and sometimes Trauma


Where we are reeling

in the Moment

From a Death, a Deep Wound or Similar

We May Seek Respite or to Escape

I will Support

You Getting Help –

for the Moment


IF — you Feel –

You Must Begin a Journey

Of Healing:


I see Two Clear Paths:

1. Where You will Move on a Long Term Path of Reflection and Healing:

I wish you Luck on Your Journey

2. Where Your Path — Reaches…

Are you Dealing with Serious Trauma?

Are you in Pain?

What is the Level of any Trauma You Face?

How are You Coping with Trauma?

How are You Coping with Pain?


I am a white man — 70 years old — living in Chicago, Illinois, USA

I am not dealing with serious trauma?

I did face trauma as a child. I did not bond with either parent or anyone else. I was and am autistic, though I didn’t know of it until recently. I had no friends during most of my childhood. …

George Marx

See: www.WorkingTowardsEndingRacism.blogspot.com & www.GeorgesWorldOnTheWater.blogspot.com & www.CaringWhiteMen.comm - I care - share/ Feel My Heart - born:1951

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